Thursday, August 5, 2010

Steel Magnolias? You suck.

The Timmy and I went to his good friend Scott's wedding this past weekend in Chicago. Generally, I love weddings. It's the perfect time to celebrate your love , whether you are the couple getting married or not. Everyone is happy. The bride for marrying her love. The groom for marrying his love. The bridal party and the guests for being there to witness a loved one joining in marriage with someone they really love. The bride and groom's parents for watching their dear child get married to their love and the future parent of their grandchildren. And that is all I kept hearing this weekend about them and their future babies.

"When are you going to give me grandchildren?"

"You two need to start working on getting me a grandchild."

"When are you guys going to get my child a playmate?"

"We're counting down the time until we hear that you two are going to have a baby."

"We can't wait... [blah, blah, blah]"

All I can think of is how our potential future babies have seemed to become a taboo topic. Parents aren't encouraging it. Siblings aren't harassing about it. Friends don't really push it on us. Is it because I am a type 1 diabetic? Do they think a pregnancy for me will end in disaster? It won't. And that is why the post's title is such. That movie has given everyone the wrong idea about diabetes. Yes, it's hard, but, no, it's not impossible nor frowned upon. It just means that we need to be prepared and be in control.

I guess I am just a bit jealous that people didn't and don't just assume that that is the next step for us. I'm not saying it is, but it could be and I would have kinda liked that to have been recognized with us like it was this past weekend with Scott and Jill.

Am I just jealous and that's what this is all about? I don't think that's it. I've just had a couple of things happen on the same day this past weekend that got me thinking. I just wish those who "accidentally" get pregnant or who can easily get pregnant without complications would realize how lucky they are and that the little baby they now have or will have soon is not a pawn in a game. So many others would just love an easy little miracle like that.



A side note: The wedding was absolutely beautiful and my husband was smoking hot in his tux. ;)