Friday, October 19, 2012

My sugar and spice

A year ago, I found out Selah was going to be a girl, though she knew it all along. ;)

In honor of that, I am posting a list of things I want to teach my daughter that I found on the internet (here).

1. Music is universal.
2. You can make the world a better place by being a better person.

3. Kindness can never be overdone.

4. Never chase a man.

5. Be the brains, and the beauty will follow.

6. Respect your body.

7. Respect yourself.

8. Never trust a man who is unkind to his mother.

9. Never depend on a man (or anyone else) to give you what you want. Get it yourself. 

"There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
11. Dance like nobody's watching.

12. Love with passion.

13. Bad hair days happen- wear a headband.

14. Listen to lyrics- they heal broken hearts.

15. Use writing to vent frustration, rather than speaking mean words.

16. A good book can change your perception.

17. "You is kind.

You is smart.
19. You is important."

20. Good girls are good, not boring.

21. Make mistakes.

22. Learn from your mistakes.

23. Travel.

"It isn't what we say or think that defines us, but what we do."
25. Play fair, fight fair. 

26. Wine should be sipped, not chugged.

27. Tea and poetry are better than coffee and talk shows.

28. You can always borrow my clothes, if I can borrow yours.

Find your own voice- write it, speak it, be it.
30. Stand up for what you believe is right.

31. Don't gossip, unless you want to be gossiped about.

32. Your daddy will love you more than any man you ever meet.

33. Decide who you want to be and be confident in your decision.

34. Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what other's expect from you.

35. Pick flowers and put them in your hair.

36. Be the kind of friend you want to have.

36. Dare to be different.

37. Life is fast, live slow.

Don't be afraid to get your hands dirty. 
39. Bad haircuts will grow out.

40. Days without laughter are wasted.

41. Shel Silverstein's books are not just for children.

42. Read everything by Nicholas Sparks. 

"I'll back you up."
44. Go barefoot.

45. Always share secrets with your mother. 

46. Do unto others as you'd have done to you. 

It hurts to be beautiful. (my mother use to say this when brushing my's not metaphorical)
48. You are not entitled to anything, it has to be earned.

49. Promises are always worth keeping.

50. Secrets should only be shared with your mother. 

51. Happiness is a choice.

52. Fairytales are real if you believe in them.

53. You make your own fate.

54. Dream big or don't bother.

55. Big rewards are made from big risks.

"Anything can happen child, anything can be."
57. Someone else is happy with less than what you have.

58. Girlfriends- the real kind- are better than therapy.

59. Find a way to create art, it can save your soul. 

60. Take pictures & cherish every. single. memory.

61. Apologizing takes strength. Be strong.

62. Forgive, but don't forget. 

63. Sometimes you have to fake it.

64. You will always remember your first kiss- make it worth the memory.

65. Sometimes I will choose to be your mother, not your friend.

66. All you have is your word- make it stronger than oak. 

67. Find friends who become family.

68. If it looks too good to be true, then it probably is. 

69. Never wear clothing to attract boys, it will attract the wrong kind. 

"A room without books is like a body without a soul."
71. Be a lion, not a lamb.

72. Imperfections make you perfectly you.

72. Water-proof mascara is necessary when watching Steel Magnolia.

73. Choose what you eat to be healthy not skinny.

74. Choose the path less traveled, I hear it makes all the difference.

75. You don't need long hair to be feminine.

76. Your brother's will scare off any boy who does not treat you with respect.

77. I will love whoever you choose to love.

78. You will always be my girl.

79. The key to looking "naturally" beautiful is great mascara and a little blush.

80. A pint of icecream and a chick flick will make it better.

81. Daddy will probably never say no to you, so get his credit card and let's go shopping.

82. Daddy will help you with Math homework.

83. I'll read you novels.

84. Let the sun shine on your face.

85. Life can change in an instant, hold on like hell to what you have. 

86.  If you're trying to convince yourself you're right, then you're probably wrong.

"Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously."
89. The secrets of life can be found in the novels of Jane Austen. 

90. When you say, "no," mean it.

91. Ponytails are just easier.

92. "For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness."

93. Money does not buy happiness, but it sure is nice.

94. Mommy and Daddy will love you regardless.

95. Guardian angels are real.

96. Sunshine on your shoulders will always get you high. 

97. "Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall- all you have to do is call."

98. Daddy will always be home.

99. I will always be home.

100. "Home is where the heart is."

I love you, Selah Faith.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

As Selah Grows

I've started a blog over on Tumblr called As Selah Grows for pictures of little miss Selah Faith. By doing so, I can begin to prepare for a facebook shut down and I can, hopefully, get this blog back to what it used to be before people expected Selah picture updates through here.

Not that I won't be putting her up on here because you know I will. :)

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Why her candle was lit

On October 15, I noticed a friend had a candle lit on her Facebook wall. If you remember my entry from that day, you were to light a candle in memory of your lost pregnancies and infants. I knew my friend (we'll call her Cassie) was pregnant, due at the end of September with her second child, a boy to be named Ethan. Well, I couldn't remember hearing anything about his birth and neither could Timmy (Timmy works with her husband).

I sent Cassie a private message asking if everything was ok because I knew what the candles stood for because I had one lit as well. This is what she sent back:

"Everything is not ok. I went into labor September 29th and when I got to the hospital they couldn't find Ethan's heartbeat. I delivered him at 5 pm. Our hearts are beyond broken and we are just asking for thoughts and prayers as we try to cope/heal/make sense of this. Thank you for checking in and for any prayers you have to spare."

That's what I was afraid had happened when we didn't hear joyous news of a baby's arrival.

So I'm asking you, as I hold my baby girl extra close, to pray for this family. Hold your kids close and pray for all of the families dealing with similar scenarios. Hold your babies close and pray for all of the families who would desperately love to have a baby to hold.

What else can you do in a time like this?

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Selah says buy: Red Stamp iPhone App

I was recently introduced to the free Red Stamp app via Pinterest and I LOVE IT. It's such a cute way to send a quick note or message to somebody, especially personalized thank you notes for gifts for your baby.

The app isn't just for thank you notes. You can also send notes of congratulations or quick hellos. These can be sent electronically (free) or through the mail ($2 for 1, but the price goes down to $1 if you want to send a lot).

I wish I had this when Selah was born for quick thank you notes for meals dropped off or gifts mailed (before I forgot to send them in a timely manner). I'll definitely use this with the next.

Go get it now. You'll love it even if you don't need it for kid's thank you notes. :)

Monday, October 15, 2012

My heart bursts with happiness and love

Today, I decided to try giving Selah little pieces of cooked frozen waffle (Gluten-free, of course) and she loved it.

Then she reached for the piece in my hand, grabbed it with her thumb and pointer finger, and then put it in her mouth. All by herself with no prompting from mama. Ever.

She's so proud of herself!

My little girl is growing up way, way too fast. The fever has definitely returned (as if we all didn't already know that). :)

Not a little sister

Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day, a day to remember our lost babies.

I won't forget that Selah should be a little sister.

I won't forget the weekend of our loss two years ago.

I won't forget the feelings between that loss and Selah's birth.

I won't forget.

I will appreciate the little things.

I will continue to remember that little one and the milestones that should be when I see Selah hit hers.

I will realize (in an odd way) that there would be no Selah if it weren't for that loss. Oh, how I wish I could have both of my babies.

I will keep hugging Selah a little tighter, kissing her a little more often, smelling her sweet baby smell a little longer, more than most parents.

I won't forget the lost and I will keep appreciating the one I have in my arms.

Sunday, October 14, 2012

I will adore You

I just love this song. :)